I don’t want to have children. I’m dating someone who shares my feelings on not reproducing. There are a lot of reasons that I feel this way, and generally I am dismissed as young or not finding the right person. As if reproduction is not a right that I inherently have as a person to choose to use or not to use. Today, as I have many times over the past 3 years, I see my black-identifying friends asking themselves how are they supposed to keep their black children (born and unborn) alive in these times. Every time I see one of these posts, it’s just another confirmation that I don’t want to reproduce. When I see my queer friends worry about being safe wherever they go, particularly if they are gender non-conforming, I think how I don’t want to raise a child in a world like that. When my friends that were born in foreign lands or who have family members that were born abroad have people come up to them and taunt them for “imperfect” English, I don’t know if I could counteract this seemingly skewed view of what nationalism means in this and many other countries. I can’t even understand the hatred that comes, from many different sides and beliefs, to people who choose to practice or not practice certain religions. I cannot.
I like to focus on social justice and real world issues in my life, and that was my purpose of starting this blog. A lot of the blogs and youtubers I follow just talk about books as a way to escape reality. Which is great, becasue that’s a big portion of why I read. But I think it’s important to learn from literature and ultimately strive to become a better person. I’ve spent a long time constructing my moral code and what I feel is “good” and “bad” in this world. Perhaps I have become more liberal and outspoken the older I have become. I am legitimately heartbroken for my community. A community which at times I feel rejects me, because I do not fit an unspoken quintessential “blackness” that I’ve never been able to truly grasp. Because as a multiracial person, I am definitely not white. Nor am I LatinX. Nor am I Jewish. I think at various times in my life, trying to struggle with feeling like I truly belong as been difficult.I want to be liked (both in real life and those figurative likes on social media). I want to have a place where I feel comfortable and able to make mistakes and for it to be okay. I want my decisions and desires to be seen as valid and important.
I like to believe I’m at a point where I’m comfortable with the life I’ve been able to make for myself and the people that I chose (and honestly sometime forced) to be around on a regular basis. But, I have to be honest with myself and know I’m not always there. Shitty things have and probably will happen to me based on a number of arbitrary and not so arbitrary situations and decisions. Somethings will happen by people who I consider close friends and others will happen by total strangers. My hope is that I can always stay true to myself and live a life that’s dedicating toward helping others and educating. I say this as a black woman who is trying desperately to pretend that the world doesn’t scare the shit out of her, and who has the unfortunate understanding that in her sphere of influence her life really is less valuable than a lot of others.
Philando Castile
Alton Sterling
Freddie Gray
Sandra Bland
Tamir Rice
Michael Brown
Eric Gardner
John Crawford
Tanisha Anderson
Walter Scott
Monica Loera
Jasmine Sierra
Kayden Clarke
Veronica Banks Cano
Maya Young
Kedarie/Kandicee Johnson
Kourtney Yochum
Shante Thompson
Keyonna Blakeney
Reese Walker
Mercedes Successful
Amos Beede
Goddess Diamond
Keith Vidal
Zachary Hammond
Stanley Almodovar III
Amanda Alvear
Oscar A. Aracena-Montero
Rodolfo Ayala-Ayala
Alejandro Barrios Martinez
Martin Benitez Torres
Antonio D. Brown
Darryl R. Burt II
Jonathan A. Camuy Vega
Angel L. Candelario-Padro
Simon A. Carrillo Fernandez
Juan Chevez-Martinez
Luis D. Conde
Cory J. Connell
Tevin E. Crosby
Franky J. Dejesus Velazquez
Deonka D. Drayton
Mercedez M. Flores
Juan R. Guerrero
Peter O. Gonzalez-Cruz
Paul T. Henry
Frank Hernandez
Miguel A. Honorato
Javier Jorge-Reyes
Jason B. Josaphat
Eddie J. Justice
Anthony L. Laureano Disla
Christopher A. Leinonen
Brenda L. Marquez McCool
Jean C. Mendez Perez
Akyra Monet Murray
Kimberly Morris
Jean C. Nives Rodriguez
Luis O. Ocasio-Capo
Geraldo A. Ortiz-Jimenez
Eric I. Ortiz-Rivera
Joel Rayon Paniagua
Enrique L. Rios Jr.
Juan P. Rivera Velazquez
Yilmary Rodriguez Solivan
Christopher J. Sanfeliz
Xavier E. Serrano Rosado
Gilberto R. Silva Menendez
Edward Sotomayor Jr.
Shane E. Tomlinson
Leroy Valentin Fernandez
Luis S. Vielma
Luis D. Wilson-Leon
Jerald A. Wright
These blue lives mattered.
Until Next Time World…
Politics, Polymers, & Pretty Dresses 
I hear you, you make a great point. Books are a great escape but sometimes many bloggers miss the point. I really like when you said:
“Which is great, becasue that’s a big portion of why I read. But I think it’s important to learn from literature and ultimately strive to become a better person”
Literature needs to be learned from and I think that the more a book scares a culture they more they need to read it. All life matters and sometimes people need to see the ugly truth before they wake up and realize it affects them too.
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Yeah. I’m sort of in a void of feelings. Not very productive for my workday. I think I often struggle with providing good content versus fluffy things that just get more views. And I’m just struck about how similar that is in real life. Not mentioning a topic or just going along with the status quo becasue it’s easier.
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I understand what you mean. My blog is fairly new. I am trying to post meaningful content but I am also trying to get eyes on the blog in the first place.
Good content is important. Views are what people go by from a marketing standard. I don’t think they two need to be mutually exclusive though.
What really makes my eyebrows narrow is that Buzzfeed gets thousands of views for some really fluffy stuff. While I love watching cute dog and cat videos I much prefer the content that shows me something.
With reading in particular I struggle for a balance. I find that I wax and wane between two voids of feelings when it comes to reading. One being that I need something really meaty in a book to balance out some of the superficiality that runs rampant or I need something fluffy so that I can process all the feelings from some previous readings.
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I want to give you a heads up. I try to collect my favorite posts throughout the week and collect them in “The Sunday Post.” I am going to include this in this week’s posting. It will go live early Sunday morning.
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Thanks for the heads up!
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You should see a pingback, but I wanted you to know that this post resonated.
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